The Inclusive “We,” Part 1

L to R: Kenneth Volk, Jackie, me

Tootling along a country road near Paso Robles last week, my wife alerted me to a sign for the Kenneth Volk winery. Now we know that winery, one of our favorites, and the tasting room, are in Santa Maria, not Paso Robles. We stopped to investigate and discovered that this weekend was the grand opening of this brand new location’s tasting room. Once inside, we began a tasting, and shortly thereafter, the dirty worker near us went to the back room. We asked about this new venue, and our server replied, “Why don’t you ask Kenneth Volk himself? I’ll get him.” Out from the back room came the same dirty, disheveled “worker” who had just been with us, his hands soiled from planting tomatoes. He apologized. “Hi, I’m Kenneth Volk,” he announced. We were astonished. THE Kenneth Volk, the owner of the winery, then spent the next half hour with us, pouring wines and explaining the subtleties of the Art of the Grape. When we asked for a picture with him, he insisted we take two—one in the shade and one in the sunlight.

So why did Kenneth Volk make such a deep impression on us? In his humility, he did not question our credentials. He didn’t ask if we were Kenneth Volk club members. He didn’t rush away to other chores, though his new establishment’s grand opening would be the next day. He didn’t apologize for his working-class appearance.

He was not “Me”-centered. Instead, he wanted to help meet our needs. Kenneth Volk included us as part of his family. He was inclusively “We”-centered, and that made all the difference.

The Fuzzy Worm Man

The Fuzzy Worm Man and the 10,000 Hour Rule

The fuzzy worm man is good! How long has he practiced doing that trick with a fake worm, for hours a day, every day, every month? Maybe 10,000 hours?

Social psychologist Malcom Gladwell claims that the way to succeed in any field of endeavor is to pay the price of much practice. It takes 10,000 hours of practicing a task to get really, really good at it. It doesn’t matter so much what the task is. This “Rule” separates one person of outstanding skills from all the other want-to-be practitioners who don’t pay that high a price.

Perhaps you’ve seen the artist who creates a sculpture within the eye of a needle or on the end of his own eyelash. It takes a microscope to see them. Unbelievable. And he’s still not content. His greatest work, he says, is yet before him. And it’s much smaller still. Ten thousand hours and counting.

When we observe a great pianist, a fine artist, or a masterful teacher, we wish we ourselves could do that. And perhaps we could, if we had single-mindedly sacrificed at least 10,000 hours toward that endeavor. It takes doing something over and over and…

Fuzzy worm man, maybe we’re a bit like you. Have we yet to find the One Thing that’s worthy of our practice?